How To Prepare For Anal
Introduction
Curious about experimenting with anal sex? Encountered difficulties that you wish to address? This article will guide you on preparing for anal sex to enhance comfort and pleasure for both you and your partner.
Before trying anal sex for the first time, many individuals have specific concerns. They might wonder if it will be painful, if there will be bowel movements, or what to do if they do not enjoy it.
Individuals who engaged in anal intercourse may share similar worries upon experiencing pain, encountering faecal matter, or simply disliking it. They might be seeking ways to enhance their experience and make it more pleasurable. Thankfully, there are practical suggestions available to address these concerns.
What Sort Of Anal Do You Want?
Anal sex encompasses more than just penile-anal penetration, involving fingers, sex toys, or oral-genital contact. It can vary in depth and intensity, including non-penetrative acts like kissing and caressing. There is no singular correct method for engaging in anal sex.
Cock in Ass: When discussing anal sex, many people immediately think of P-in-A intercourse involving the penis in the anus.
Toy In Ass: When it comes to anal sex toys, there is a wide range of options available. Apart from anal dildos for penetration, there are plugs meant to be left in place, anal beads for pleasurable removal, and prostate toys designed to massage the prostate.
Finger In Ass: Exploring anal play with your fingers is a great option, particularly for beginners concerned about size. It's important to note that when moving on to penetration with a penis or toy, some digital penetration will likely be part of the process. Therefore, maintaining good hand hygiene and well-groomed nails is essential for a smooth experience.
Oral: Also referred to as anilingus, rimming, tossing salad, or another preferred oral-anal euphemism. If you're not a fan yet, engaging in oral sex in an area associated with waste elimination might seem unappealing, but there is no need to be concerned. As long as the recipient has had regular bowel movements, anilingus is typically hygienic. However, we will delve further into this aspect later.
Determining your preferred position can be done by trying out our first preparation tip: experimenting on your own.
Try By Yourself First – Train Your Anus
Whether you are new to anal sex or experienced in it, diving right in is not recommended. If you are a novice and considering trying anal with a partner, it might be beneficial to explore solo beforehand. This could involve incorporating anal play into your solo sexual activities, such as using fingers or sex toys for stimulation.
If you are new to anal sex, it is beneficial to understand the sensation of anal penetration regardless of whether you will be the giver or receiver.
Using a lubricated finger, begin exploring by gently touching the area surrounding your anus, testing different pressures, and inserting one or two fingers. You will be able to sense the movements of your anal muscle, also known as the sphincter, allowing you to experiment with relaxing, contracting, and pleasuring it.
By being the top partner, you will become familiar with the relaxation your bottom partner will experience and the sensations they will feel.
Being the receptive partner can assist you in understanding how to unwind your muscles, identifying pleasurable sensations, and becoming accustomed to the experience, ultimately boosting your confidence and familiarity for future anal sex encounters.
It is not obligatory, but it can be an enjoyable and useful method for a receptive partner to learn how to relax their anal muscles. The aim is to facilitate and enhance the experience of accommodating a penis or strap-on during anal intercourse.
You can achieve this using your fingers (beginning with one finger, taking deep breaths, and then slowly incorporating more), or with sex toys specifically created for this purpose.
The basic toy for this purpose is usually a butt plug, typically crafted from glass or silicone, featuring a tapered shape and a flared base. Alternatively, you may opt for an anal training kit consisting of multiple plugs in ascending sizes for progressive use.
Ensure to utilize specially designed toys for anal training, which typically feature a flared base to prevent the plug from being accidentally swallowed and to avoid potential emergencies.
Gather Your Supplies
Fancy equipment is not necessary for anal sex. All you need is an ample amount of lubricant and condoms. While toys are optional, they are not a requirement.
Anal Safe Sex Toys
It is important to remember that some toys are not safe for anal use. The key rule for anal toys is to ensure they have a flared base to prevent them from getting lost inside you. It's common for people to end up in the emergency room because a toy gets stuck in their rectum more frequently than you might imagine.
Numerous sex toys come with flared bases specifically created for safe anal activities. Certain toys aid in loosening and expanding your sphincter, like anal beads, vibrators, and butt plugs.
Toys such as strap-ons and dildos are available for the penetrative partner to use. There is a wide range of options to choose from, so you can select what suits you and your partner best.
Exercise caution when considering using a non-purpose-designed anal sex toy to avoid ending up in the emergency room with a "rectal foreign body."
Serious complications such as colon and rectal perforation, stomach infections, anal sphincter damage, abscess, and bleeding are rare but can occur. Prevent these issues and high medical costs, opt for purpose-built sex toys that are completely safe.
Opting for toys crafted from easy-to-clean materials such as silicone due to its nonporous and hypoallergenic properties. She advises beginners to consider starting with toys of varying sizes, allowing them to begin with smaller options and progress to larger ones as desired. If you are new to using toys and are interested in glass or metal options, it might be wise to choose smaller sizes as these materials can be weighty, providing a full sensation even without additional size.
Lubrication
Lube plays a crucial role in anal play as the rectum doesn't naturally lubricate itself like the vagina does. It's important to use an ample amount of either water-based or silicone-based lube to ensure comfort. Additionally, there are lubes specifically formulated for anal activities. Water-based lube is easy to clean off fabrics, safe for silicone toys, while silicone lube lasts longer and is thicker, making it a preferred choice for anal sex, though incompatible with silicone toys. Oil-based lubes are effective but can stain and should not be used with latex condoms. To manage potential messiness, keep a towel nearby.
Condoms
Using condoms is crucial when transitioning from anal to vaginal penetration in a fluid-bonded relationship to prevent the transfer of bacteria from the anus to the vagina or urethra. Anus harbours different bacteria, such as gastrointestinal (GI) bacteria, like E. coli, which can result in vaginal infections like bacterial vaginosis. Symptoms may include vaginal itching, burning during urination, a “fishy” vaginal odour, and abnormal vaginal discharge. Moreover, the bacteria can lead to urinary tract infections (UTIs) causing symptoms like frequent urination, burning sensation, cloudy urine, and pelvic pain.
What About Poop?
When discussing anal sex, inquiries about poop commonly arise, so it's beneficial to be aware of what to anticipate. To begin with, let's explore the process of defecation within your body. Food initiates its journey in the stomach, where it undergoes breakdown. Subsequently, it moves through the small intestine for further digestion. The leftover food residue, referred to as faeces, is accumulated in the large intestine, known as the colon, as detailed by the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases.
When there is a buildup of waste in your colon that requires elimination, your colon contracts and moves the stool into the rectum, an eight-inch passage linking the colon to the anus. Your brain receives the message signalling the need to visit the bathroom soon, and the rectum holds the stool until you consciously contract it to expel the waste.
During anal play, anal sex occurs in the rectum, which is not a place for storing feces unless a bowel movement is about to happen. The chances of accidentally defecating on your partner during the act are minimal. If you have recently had a bowel movement and do not have any health conditions that might make bowel movements less predictable, such as ulcerative colitis, it is unlikely that you will unexpectedly pass feces during anal sex.
Regrettably, there is a minor issue to consider here, which is crucial for managing expectations. After defecating, your body is supposed to eliminate all the stool in your rectum; however, there may be some fecal matter remaining. While the likelihood of accidentally defecating on your partner is low, it's important to understand that they could come into contact with some fecal matter, whether visible or not.
There is no need to worry. Just rinse it off with soap and water (or replace the condom), wash your hands, and carry on with your daily routines, including resuming anal sex if desired. It's important for everyone involved to be informed beforehand.
It's important to note that there are additional precautions and considerations to bear in mind regarding anal sex if either you or your partner has a gastrointestinal problem. Check out this article for more details.
Don’t Neglect your Anal Hygiene
Preparing for anal sex involves cleaning the area thoroughly with water and a gentle washcloth or opting for an enema for those who prefer an extra step.
Administering an enema entails injecting water or saline into the rectum to dissolve any faecal matter present, facilitating easier elimination. Some individuals recommend using an enema kit, readily available at drugstores or online, before engaging in anal activities to prevent faecal matter from becoming a concern. Fleet enemas, priced at $8 on Amazon, are a commonly chosen product, coincidentally sparking amusement related to Twitter's new Fleet feature.
Once more, having an enema is not a must. The likelihood of accidentally defecating on your partner during intercourse is very low. However, it is generally safe to have an enema occasionally, as long as it does not cause irritation to your rectum, according to Dr. Frankhouse. He suggests having enemas only every few months and strictly adhering to the instructions each time. If you experience discomfort in your rectal area after an enema, it is advisable to discontinue. Besides that, focus on maintaining external anal cleanliness.
During anal sex, it is common for a small amount of faecal matter to be present, which should be viewed as a natural and normal occurrence without any shame or guilt attached.
If you will be in the bottom role, it is essential to prioritize good basic anal hygiene to enhance your enjoyment and minimize cleanup, which is also considerate to your partner. Similarly, if you will be the top partner and plan to use fingers, keeping your nails short and well-maintained is a crucial consideration.
Both thorough anus cleansing during a shower or using unscented baby wipes are excellent choices for cleaning. Additionally, showering together beforehand can lead to enjoyable foreplay chances.
Certain individuals opt to cleanse their rectums using a method known as anal douching. This practice is typically performed an hour or two prior to sexual activity and entails injecting a small quantity of water or saline solution into the rectum, retaining the liquid for a brief period, and then expelling it gently. While it can eliminate any faecal matter and provide a sense of mental ease regarding cleanliness, it is not obligatory.
When performing anal douching, opt for an enema bulb, small ear syringe, or traditional enema bag. Use cool water to prevent burns and remember to lubricate the device's tip. Handle with care to avoid harming the sensitive rectal tissue, and steer clear of soaps to prevent drying and potential tearing during intercourse.
Preventing Injury
Upon your initial experience as the recipient in anal intercourse, it is possible to encounter discomfort or minor bleeding. This occurrence is frequent but should not be considered typical.
Small anal fissures or tears are the cause. They typically heal on their own but can be quite painful. Sitz baths, stool softeners, a high fibre diet, and avoiding straining can aid the healing process. If bleeding persists, consult a healthcare provider. To prevent bleeding during anal sex, pay attention to your body, slow down, engage in foreplay, use more lubrication, and practice anal training beforehand. Trying different positions such as receiving-partner-on-top, missionary, and reverse-spooning can help control penetration depth and speed, enhance communication, and create a more relaxed atmosphere, especially for beginners.
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Say no to numbing cream
Numbing creams containing anaesthetics such as benzocaine are easily accessible, but doctors would advise against using them for anal. Why? Because nerve endings are designed to be sensitive to signal pain, helping prevent serious injuries. Although numbing creams may create the sensation of easier anal penetration, they do not reduce physical damage. Numbing the anus could lead to unknowingly surpassing your body's comfort limits during such activities.
Instead of that, it is better to proceed slowly and engage in open communication with your partner. Engaging in anal play can be enjoyable, and there is no need to desensitize yourself to experience pleasure.
Try easy, beginner friendly positions
Before trying anal sex for the first time, many individuals have common worries such as potential pain, faecal matter, and not enjoying the experience. These concerns are often shared by those who have already engaged in anal sex and found it painful, messy, or unsatisfying. They may seek ways to improve the experience for future attempts. Luckily, there are tips available to address these concerns and enhance the overall enjoyment.
There isn't a universal guide for anal sex positions, but being on top could potentially ease first-time anal intercourse by providing more control over the depth and speed of penetration. Additionally, it allows for potential clitoral stimulation if desired. For those more experienced with anal sex, positions like doggy-style or spooning for a more fulfilling experience, with the option to incorporate clitoral stimulation as well.
Orgasms are undoubtedly enjoyable, but focusing too much on achieving one during sex can lead to anxiety, detract from the experience, and hinder orgasm attainment. It is advisable to embrace the experience without fixating on a specific outcome, including during anal sex, where achieving orgasms may not be as straightforward due to the complexities of the G-spot and P-spot.
Conclusion
The point of all this is to give you the very best base knowledge for exploring your anal play fantasies. You may like it, you may not but hopefully, equipped with some of these top tips, your first time won’t be as uncomfortable as it might otherwise have been. Whether you like it or not, that’s up to you to decide after.
Good luck! We’ll see you on the other side!
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